Comments on: If Your Girl Only knew

By: Tee'd Off

Tee'd Off — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 15:40:18 +0000

“I have told my fiancee with a totally straight face that I would kill them both if I ever caught her cheating. This is of course an exagerration and we laugh about this (nobody call the police) but there would be dire consequences.”

oh ok.. ::hangs up the phone after starting to dial 911::
You scared me apropervillain! lol
I feel you on the give and take aspect of relationships & keeping the lines of communication open.. BUT I think that in many cases its just not that easy for a man/woman to come out and say “boo, you’re f*cking boring this shit out of me these days”
If you can w/o getting bodied GREAT but its not likely and i think thats why ppl feel the urge to cheat.
So my question to you (and anyone else who subscribed to comments)…is …how do you overcome the boredom hump in a committed relationship? Because to say that you do not get bored with your SO from time to time is lying and I wont believe you!!!

By: apropervillain

apropervillain — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 14:58:28 +0000

First off, homegirl was dirty for jumping in the convo asking about Stacey lol. He could have been networking or something. Let that man live and if you must call it out, send his girl a text or something.
I think that whenever you are in a committed relationship regardless of whether you are married or not, you need to stay true to that person or be man/woman enough to say something if u aren’t getting all u need at the crib. Its both embarassing and insulting to your mate for you to be creeping with someone else, especially publicly. I have told my fiancee with a totally straight face that I would kill them both if I ever caught her cheating. This is of course an exagerration and we laugh about this (nobody call the police) but there would be dire consequences. Tenfold if it was public knowledge even amongst her girlfriends. I think to avoid issues, just open a clear line of communication from jump so u can say “hey youre not doing XY and Z which I need to be happy”. And ladies specifically understand that (in the words of Katt Williams) “if you wont do it, theres a raggedy b**** that will” so keep your man happy on all levels and he should be held to the same obligation!

By: The Single Dame ®

The Single Dame ® — Fri, 22 May 2009 15:56:13 +0000

Hey Girly,

I’m dranken (lol) some local made “Plum Wine” from this place called Cooper’s Hawk in the suburbs of Chicago. It’s a very very sweet wine and it’s actually one of the only Plum Wines I’ve tasted that is pretty yummy.

And girl you right, ain’t a damn thing wrong with getting your FLIRT ON!

Forever Fabulous,
The Single Dame

By: Tee'd Off

Tee'd Off — Fri, 22 May 2009 11:54:49 +0000

“Now, if I was ole’ girl who was all close and personal and then some bitch apparently without a life comes up to us and ask this new man I’m into where is his girlfriend and/or wife. I must honestly admit I would ROLL MY DAMN EYES AT THE WOMAN WHO NEEDS TO GO AND TEND TO HER OWN DAMN BUSINESS, I would allow the man to respond and carry on with my flirtacious night.”

I’m with you on that one. This senario actually happened with a friend of mine, and I’m sure with many other females and my thoughts were the same…you are not doing anything wrong by getting your flirt on.

btw what kind of wine you dranking Single D???? Might have to pick some up this weekend lol

By: The Single Dame ®

The Single Dame ® — Fri, 22 May 2009 06:06:41 +0000

Damn I wrote a lot! LOL!

Forever Fabulous,
The Single Dame

By: The Single Dame ®

The Single Dame ® — Fri, 22 May 2009 06:06:13 +0000

First and Foremost AALIYAH IS MY GIRL!

Okay, now to the topic at hand, you hit it right on the hand when you stated, “I think anything besides full out sexual contact (anything besides the kiss), is a great way to test the strength of a relationship”.

I agree with this fully ESPECIALLY if you are in your 20′s! I mean in your 20′s do you really know what you want? Aren’t the 20′s the years in which you rae suppose to make mistakes, wonder, test the waters, and really figure out what it is you want once you hit your old age years?

Now, if I was ole’ girl who was all close and personal and then some bitch apparently without a life comes up to us and ask this new man I’m into where is his girlfriend and/or wife. I must honestly admit I would ROLL MY DAMN EYES AT THE WOMAN WHO NEEDS TO GO AND TEND TO HER OWN DAMN BUSINESS, I would allow the man to respond and carry on with my flirtacious night.

I may exchange numbers and see where things go from their. I mean life is short, am I really abot to allow some hatin ass bitch dictate my future? How would I even know if she’s telling the truth?

I CAN GO ON AND ON AND ON about this topic, because my actions with the fella would vary upon soooooooo many factors. If I was just looking for some fella to laugh with, hang out, and possibly have sex with, THEN MAYBE JUST MAYBE, I would continue to pursue this man without any cares in the world.

Though I must admit, I wouldn’t be planning any possible weddings in my mind about me and this brotha because it’s apparent he got SOME KIND OF DRAMA in his life. Regardless if he’s really dating STACEY or if Stacey is some crazy ex-girlfriend or Baby Mama who got a crazy stalka crew. NO MATTER THE CIRCUMSTANCE, I Don’t DO DRAMA!

Forever Fabulous,
The Single Dame

P.S. Thanks for stopping by the blog. AND please PARDON any and all typos. It’s late, I’m drinking wine, and Maxwell is singing in my ear about them damn cops knockin….BYE!

By: Tee'd Off

Tee'd Off — Thu, 21 May 2009 16:56:21 +0000

“If that’s the point your at that you’d rather search for things with someone else then leave. I think I lot of folk don’t really know what they want so they’re all over the place trying to be content.”

Through personal experience (boy i’m referring to myself a lot today) I found that was the case- I was looking for happiness & sense of adventure in the wrong place, which ultimately lead to my breakup of that particular relationship.

I co-sign on your rebound theory…your head can not possibly clear after a breakup..down time is definetly key. To latch on to some dude who tickled my fancy before or during the tumultuous times in a previous relationship does not make this man a winner..He’s prolly looking to hit it and ultimately actions speak louder than words.
It may be great you found someone to connect with but if you’re truly connected time will tell and the truth character of that person will be revealed..

I am loving the input today…thank you Nightfall & Terry!!!!!!

By: Tee'd Off

Tee'd Off — Thu, 21 May 2009 16:14:01 +0000

“you hear these stories of couples meeting when the other was in a “dead-end” relationship and they knew it was “just right” between them.”

You’re so right on that one. We hear about those happily ever after stories a lot. Brangelina? Prince Charles & Camilia Bowles? Also many romantic comedies are based on this plot structure.
I feel if you were really “meant to be” you can keep your hands off each other until the “horrible” relationship you’re in is finished.
Remember you are your karma…and the effects of the boomberang can be painful.