Ten Ways to Love Yourself: From a Former Self-hater
July 13, 2010 8 Comments
I drafted a list of things I’ve been doing to help strengthen the relationship I am building with myself. I hope this becomes the type of post you can pass around and share with others who are on the same path to enlightenment and self-actualization as myself. If you know me personally you’ll notice that this “side of me” rarely gets injected into daily conversation. In fact, I spend more time focusing on fun and giggles because I put my work in, meaning that I make sure my inner core is solidified before I step out in the often unpredictable arena called life. I’m learning that instead of resisting the inevitable I am going to own and mold the inevitable, its your universe you have the power to make it a land mine or divine, enjoy!
Ten Ways to Love Yourself
- Practice at the art of embracing peace in solitary: in other words, get used to and feel 100% comfortable with the sound of your own breath alone in a room
- Reject opportunities for Isolation: when out take a chance and talk to the person who is least likely to fit in with your usual group of people. Reject every opportunity to single yourself out from the crowd, unless you absolutely feel comfortable in dark lonely corners for long periods of time.
- Re-visit your inner child and ask them what they enjoy doing, and grant their wishes.: Did your little girl or boy really want to go to strawberry picking? Well, find a field and do the damn thing!
- Spend 15-30 minutes once a week naked in front of a full-length mirror
- Get rid of images in your environment that cause you to compare yourself to others and replace them with images and objects that invoke happy feelings
- Every time you feel a bout of harsh self-criticism coming over you (i.e. after trying on clothes at a store), allow whatever you’re thinking to come out, “my fat ass never fits into those jeans” and quickly replace it with something positive, “everybody got those jeans anyway, this just means I’m going to stumble across something cuter”
- Do something out of the ordinary, that you normally wouldn’t once a week
- Drink lots of water, incorporate as many live foods (veggies/fruits) into the diet as possible and gradually cut down on sugar intake
- Ask for help when you need it
- Never turn down an opportunity to give of yourself or assist.
Bonus:Play with yourself, as in masturbation. YES I SAID IT!!!You are your most prized possession baby!!!
P.S If you have any to add to this list please share!!!
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Love the list. Nothing to add as of yet..but I did followed this link to a few folks who I hope will check it out!!
Great post!!
Excellent list G.I.
I think stuff like this is even more important for Black women to focus on. We tend to exhaust ourselves giving giving giving and taking care of everyone but ourselves. We do too much and often need to stop and take care of ourselves.
I’m feeling you on the shopping bit, it’s not easy finding jeans for these hips and booty. I’ll get frustrated and I let it out, but I love my hips and booty, perfect perch for my future babies.
Nothing to add, love the list and thanks for doing it. I do this stuff often, but I needed to be reminded, been slacking on the self love lately…no not that kind of self love. Lol.
Thanks for the post.. I needed this today…
The only thing I would add is to remind yourself daily that you are a beautiful and wonderfully unique manifestation of the creator designed for greatness…
I love this one!!!
Another Great post! This reminds me of the some of the things suggested in “The Artist Way,” by Julia Cameron. That was by far one of the most influential books in my artist life.
On point, chica!
This was a great post. I am doing one right now, shoot I do this all day. I read it while nakey. I like this list especially doing something out of the ordinary.
Of course the first article I check out here in a while advises women to masturbate.lol.