I tried hitting the snooze button so I could get in my usual hour and a half of “meditation” but I had a serious case of the heebie geebies. My spirit let off an atrociously high pitched alarm saying GET THE F@#$ UP AND WRITE. There was no dodging it. While I thought I could, I stayed bitching in my bed for 10 minutes (don’t worry I’m already getting counselling) about this very topic. 
I know not everyone reading will be able to relate to this here topic. Many of us …

“We are naturally attracted to people with firm and clear boundaries, and we can’t help but treat them with respect. Boundaries are also the key to true intimacy. Without boundaries it is impossible to be truly intimate because it isn’t safe enough. If you are at some level, worried about getting hurt, you’ll put up barriers to protect yourself or keep people at a distance.”
At some level we all have in place boundaries. This becomes evident when someone rubs us the wrong way or when we loose our cool and …

I came across an interesting post on whataboutourdaughters.com titled “No I am NOT a Beyonce Fan”. For those who are not familiar with this blog:
“What About Our Daughters was founded on April 18, 2007 in response to an Oprah Winfrey show entitled “After Imus:Now What” . The original purpose of the blog was to encourage Black women to organize to “Stop Funding Foolishness.” In other words, to use economic power to to impose economic sanctions on those who are producing destructive images of Black women and girls. We’ve evolved since …

Welcome to part two of my case study on Establishing Boundaries. Before any boundaries are established, it is essential that we first discover what our top four emotional and personal needs are. Once we have identified  what our needs are only then can we begin to set boundaries, which is the key step in helping us meet these needs.
Needs=Needy?
Kick that mentality to the curb!
To have emotional needs is human. Everyone has needs. Those who don’t appear needy have simply figured out how to fulfill them. If you want to attract …

Heyyyyyyyy…..I finally did it!! I figured out how to v-log (video blog) and upload it- yes yes yes!!
In the vlog I discuss two topics:
Inbox drama
Minimogulmodel syndrome
I also invite you to join the non-stop social networking party on Facebook —> Goddess Intellect
As I mentioned in the video the link to Sunnydelyte’s blog post—> Excess Baggage
I had fun doing this…I may do it again.
 
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Goddess Intellect

On my off time when I wasn’t blogging or crazy glued to my desk at work last month, I did a lot of reading. I put down The Art of Seduction (which I still have not finished ..have mercy) and picked up a book that I had read very quickly but finished before called The Secret Laws of Attraction by Talane Miedaner. I did a post last year on some of the key points I liked, but I never took the time to READ IT. The book has the reader …

I’m up a little too early on a Sunday but that’s all good, I’m excited! I’m single on a day that celebrates love and togetherness, but coincidentally I’m also single on Chinese New Years which according to tradition is a good thing, because single folks do not have to give out red envelopes with money- MO MONEY MO MONEY MO MONEY. Side note: I am part Chinese, I don’t just play one on TV. Thanks. 
Ok so I’ve been M.I.A this week, well that’s because I’ve been living in my cubicle …

I recently found myself in the passenger seat of an ex boyfriend’s car. I knew how the situation would play out. From the lyrics he would whisper stanza by stanza breaking it down with a hypnotic rhythm and bass in his voice that would pulsate deep into my eyes straight through down to my spinal cord. I predicted the direction he would plot the take down, moving in on the right, sneak a kiss etc. I knew he would raise my body temperature with the mere mention of the photos …

This weekend your girl went to church for the first time since 199_, yea, I know a looong time. Ok, that’s not completely accurate, I’ve been to church in the new millennium but more as a representative of myself, than by will. See I don’t count showing face at Christmas or for a baptism or funeral as attending church, just cause most of the time your mind is focused on the celebratory aspect of the service than the actual purpose of attending church- to serve the Lord.I am not the …

I rang in 2010 in deep thought and for a few hours in gut busting laughter making fun of youtube vids (exciting, I know) with my crazy ass BFF who is the kind of person who finishes my sentence before I know how I want to end it. I passed up alcoholic deep throating and overpriced sweat drenched nightspots for a night of serenity and simplicity solo….Its grapefruit juice in my glass I swear!
Aside from the sniggling, I had to examine myself harder than I ever had in the past. …