Designer Bag Biches
Bag lady you gone miss your bus
You can’t hurry up
Cause you got too much stuff
When they see you comin
Niggas take off runnin
From you it’s true oh yes they do
-Bag Lady, Erykah Badu
It’s reflection Mondays. Ok not officially, but every time I sit at this keyboard to churn out a Monday post, I just start reflecting and my thoughts are so powerful, ahh *shrugs* it is what it is.
I am a recovering handbagaholic. The addiction got so bad that I threw out shoes when I last moved before I would ever part with one of my babies, and yes even the ones with dust collecting on the straps. Seeing as though I am unable to close my closet, I’ve managed to limit the collection and not spend too much this year on purses, but this has taken lots of control and brokenness.
However you may be shocked to find out that my addiction has not led me to the LV boutique or Coach Stores of the world. In fact I am not one for labels. I work in the retail/fashion industry and can spot/smell a fake designer anything with a blindfold over my eyes. I have an appreciation for hand-made construction and premium leathers, and I know the true meaning behind “MADE IN ITALY” but I know who I am and what I’m currently capable of affording-end of story. But if you are on the generous side and would like to make a donation to my designer bag fund please feel free to hit me up via…………….
I think it’s safe to say we all carry an amount of baggage from our past with us. We know this because when it comes down to the “tough times” in our relationships, we turn an otherwise simple situation into something magnified times ten, true story. I posted about the ghost of relationship past and how if we DO NOT deal with theses ghosts, they will follow us, fucking up that relationship with the good girl/guy that had our best intentions at heart, fucking up our thinking making us call the boos phone 10 times in a row because we “think” they’re lying, etc & etc.
It’s embarrassing to reflect on some of our past behaviors and pain that was caused to us to turn us into these “haunted” individuals, in fact if you feel embarrassed I think its good thing. I think it’s a good thing to see the error in our ways. I believe it is sooo powerful to be able to take a step back and be able to look at the BIG PICTURE as opposed to dwelling on the emotions we felt, or what we think the other person may “really” be thinking about us and all the other coulda-shoulda-wouldas.
At the end of the day you have you, your baggage, and yourself. A label, contents, or size of a bag does not necessarily make it better or worse. An individual with what seems like a perfect nuclear family and solid upbringing best believe has some baggage too. So back to the quote above, knowing that we all carry different types of bags, how much are you willing to help a bag person carry?
Niggas take off runnin…..
Many of us would rather not have to deal with our partner’s baggage but if you go back to the five progressive stages of love post, the fifth stage is all about giving…as in give a hand?
Have you ever thought about what level of types of baggage you are willing to help carry?
And for reflection purposes, what type of baggage do you carry? Do you need help with the load? Do you need to unload before you carry on?
Betcha love can make it betterrrrrrrr,
Goddess Intellect
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I have some trust baggage, I don’t think I need help with my load I just need a way deal with it. Yes, I do need to unload it.
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goddessintellect Reply:
December 21st, 2009 at 4:59 pm
I need to unload some ish too (pausible like a mofo)
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That’s my song right there! Love it!
I don’t know if other people view me as someone with any baggage, I don’t see it, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t there. I’ve never really been hurt to the point of dragging that hurt and pain around with me. I think I go through the appropriate phases of hurt and pain, deal with it and move on.
Great reflective piece though, now I’m sitting here wondering what kind of baggage I really do have! Lmao. Thanks.
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goddessintellect Reply:
December 21st, 2009 at 4:59 pm
Noooo!! lol…dont second guess yourself..if you’re load has been lightened (all kinda pausible) then you’re good. I dont think we’re meant to carry around overstuffed totes all day everyday.
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The baggage I’m carrying is a big HAPPY HOLIDAYS and HAPPY NEW YEAR to you GI!
Take care and I’ll talk to you again soon.
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goddessintellect Reply:
December 22nd, 2009 at 6:47 am
AHHHHHHH Monie you’re back!!
See I took down your blog link on the blogroll thinking that you’d go off get married and forget about us….Are you coming back to the blog world???
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Monie Reply:
December 22nd, 2009 at 11:49 am
@GI
Nope, I’m not back. I just stopped in for a moment. I’m not sure if or when I’ll go back to blogging full-time.
Miss Ya & Take care!
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This was a great post. Now I am thinking about the baggage I am carrying but never admit too. I always felt that is what Erykah meant in that song. But at the same time I have been trying to unload some of this crap, because I feel if you keep carrying it, you will eventually become some kind of nutcase. Great post now let me unload.
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Haha, don’t worry I thought about it and I’m cool. I leave my baggage at my house and never bring it to others. Lmao. You thought provoking lil imp you!
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I’m wondering where the men are at? Thinking that this post somehow does not apply to them o_0?
Think again!! Men have baggage too but they carry it in their pockets or they swallow the shit and it doesnt get digested..like bubblegum lol
This is interesting…….
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“how much are you willing to help a bag person carry?”….. NONE!!
Trying to unload myself…
Its almost like they tell ya when you board an airplane, if tragedy strikes 1st *put the oxygen mask safely on you* take care of yourself then you should help others…
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