Freak-Um Fridays: Team Building
Ok, I didn’t want to tease everyone with yesterday’s Holiday Party Etiquette post and not deliver. I will make this very short and sweeeeeet.
I do not support office/work relationships. I can’t imagine spending 8+ hours with the boo, drive with home with the boo, hop in bed with the boo, then repeat the same thing all over again, but that’s just me. I think it’s healthy to have separate lives and friends; work is a large chunk of that separation. Years back I worked with someone who was not my usual type, meaning he had kids, was a bit older and was more of a mentor to me. I flirted, he flirted but for the duration of our work relationship, no moves were made and the thought of acting on impulse was out of the question.
Our mentoring sessions lasted even after his resignation and lead us to dinner one day……After dinner I had desert…….Dulce de leche while chocolate mousse?
After that, I became extremely turned off, by his eagerness, meaning that while I was happy with the single “diner date”, he was ready to take things to the next level. While I might’ve taken him up on his offer at this age, admittedly back then I was not in that frame of mind at all. In fact I regret that I extended this dinner date of ours and learned quick and fast that work & pleasure do not mix.
Not a team player,
Goddess Intellect
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I’ve never dated anyone from work. Seems like it could work, we spend 8 hours a day in the workplace,surrounded by folk that have the same commonalities add the fact that it makes it kind of tough to meet people anywhere else. I have married friends that met at work, I have friends going on 5years long that met at work. Today they work for the same companies but no-longer in the same department. They maybe exceptions, but I’m with you. Not a good look if the relationship doesn’t last; awkwardness, tension and GOSSIP.
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goddessintellect Reply:
November 27th, 2009 at 11:29 am
4 real..office gossip is bad enough without ppl knowing about your relationships..i say if you can overcome that you’re good…but otherwise i stay far away from co-workers as possible..attractive or not!!
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Work relations are “interesting.” lol
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goddessintellect Reply:
November 27th, 2009 at 1:00 pm
quite “interesting”…oh man do I feel a juicy vlog coming on?? lol
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Nightfall Reply:
December 3rd, 2009 at 10:52 am
LOL. Doubt it. Gotta keep a lil degree of mystery.
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goddessintellect Reply:
December 3rd, 2009 at 11:05 am
respect.
I’ve never dated anyone I work with, my field is dominated by women. I’m strictly dickly, but if there were male co-workers and I happen to be attracted to one and the feeling was mutual, why not?
I can understand the awkwardness of a breakup and having to deal with them on a daily afterwards, but I’m friends with most of the men who’ve ever been romantically interested in me. Strange, but we manage to maintain normal friendships after failed romances.
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goddessintellect Reply:
November 28th, 2009 at 11:21 am
I think thats what I fear- the awkwardness…after my short rendez vous with the ex-co worker, it was easy to cut off ties…so I could quickly move on.
But its powerful to be able to maintain friendships with exes…as long as they respect your boundaries
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Nightfall Reply:
December 3rd, 2009 at 10:53 am
I’ve remained on good terms with my past partners so thats true.
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The reality is that we are at work for 8 hours a day, at least; and that’s where in many instances that we seem to spend a bulk of our time. It’s only natural that we tend to develop relationships there. I’m never surprised when I hear my friends tell me that they’ve met someone at work; and over the years, many of my friends have developed relationships there.
Maybe I’m not the right person to comment on this issue; because I met my wife at work more than 20 years ago and we’re still together.
I wouldn’t recommend that everyone start relationships at work, but it seems to work for so many people. For those that do, I would recommend caution. Many of my friends met their significant others at work; but many other have had relationships that didn’t work out. People that work together tend to have much in common. However, work relationships that don’t work can become issues. It is what it is.
All I would say is to be careful, sometimes people suck.
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goddessintellect Reply:
November 30th, 2009 at 6:42 am
Y’know what Reggie, I too know of a few successful relationships that began at work. Unlike myself these peeps are more satisfied with the work they do, and with the people they work with, so if those two needs are met why not pursue a relationship?
In the end love and passion know no boundaries.
I dont support work relationships now, but never say never, right?
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I dated someone I worked with, and it didn’t work. Another girl knew we were together and she tried he damnest to get his attntion. He was latino and just plain sexy, but he only wanted me. Now mind you I don’t approve of fighting over a man. This female try to disrespect me in front of my face. He let her know he wasn’t interested but she kept trying to pursue him.
I was more than ready to stomp her out, but I had to compose myself and be the lady in the situation. If I would’ve fought her it would’ve been because she disrespected me.
But yeah, never will I date a co-worker.
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goddessintellect Reply:
December 3rd, 2009 at 8:49 pm
Sunnydelyte21, did you break up with your co-worker because of the drama with the “other girl”?
I ask because this sounds like something has happened at my workplace b4.
My eyes see too much I tell ya!
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