Take Time to Realize feat. Ms. Nikks
Long overdue, my gorgeous Canadian sister from the west is going to take over today. If you have not already, please pay her a visit at the highly entertaining and insightful blog Ms.Nikks….enjoy!!!
Late night conversations. Giggling. Butterflies. Dinners. Flowers. Walks. Kisses. Kindness. Attention. Gentleness and most of all TIME.
“If we were together baby, I’d do this and I’d do that. I’d treat you this way and never make you feel like he/she is making you feel right now!”
We spend so much time trying to convince each other that we’d be good together, that we should be together, that it feels right. So how come once we decide that yes we can work, we stop working?
The late night conversations are less frequent. The giggling becomes sighing. The dinners are often solo, the flowers have dried up and died (potpourri bish), the kisses only happen when there’s sex, not just because. The TIME, oh the Time is now spent arguing, bickering, nagging at each other.
Once we get that label we wanted, husband, wife, girlfriend, boyfriend, boo, shawty, whatever, why do we stop trying? We do we stop caring?
Ms.Nikks
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I’m usually the one that puts in time for caring. Lots of time…….I need to get some time back.
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Ms. Nikks Reply:
November 23rd, 2009 at 2:28 pm
“…I need to get back some time.” Me too damn it! I deserve it!
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I am too (agreeing with Nightfall). I find that once I start caring then shit goes down hill. I was told on my blog that once the chase ends..then most guys become uninterested.. wth?
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Ms. Nikks Reply:
November 23rd, 2009 at 2:22 pm
Oh Sunny, that’s my next post for tomorrow. Addressing that once the chase ends issue.
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goddessintellect Reply:
November 26th, 2009 at 3:13 pm
I dont think the chase needs to end just because you begin to share feelings (caring) with the boo. I think the level of dependency is what causes some men to become uninterested. Relationships need to reciprocate emotions in order to grow, but once a person confuses security/comfort with dependency shit can take a turn for the worst.
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sunnydelyte21 Reply:
December 1st, 2009 at 9:18 am
I can dig what your saying.
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I often noticed–we meet someone…start dating, talking on the phone, or what not, but what tends to happen is that we are on our best behavior; we care alot, we have alot of passion for the person that we are talking to, and don’t want to do anything to mess that up. This is often a mask, and once we get what we want from that person; then, we tend to get lazy with keeping the game face going.
It’s a ego thing. People can keep game faces on for weeks, month’s–6 months, maybe longer…depending on the person, until you start to see them for what they really are. It’s a shame that we have to waste our time and go through this. It’s really sad to see this happening with our youth–they get pregnant and later end up breaking up.
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Ms. Nikks Reply:
November 26th, 2009 at 2:33 pm
I appreciate the man who tells me way too much on the first date or over the first phone conversation, I truly do. I hate nasty surprises after I’ve invested my time and energy into a relationship. I’d rather know up front what the deal is. Saves me the wasted time.
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goddessintellect Reply:
November 26th, 2009 at 3:18 pm
“I often noticed–we meet someone…start dating, talking on the phone, or what not, but what tends to happen is that we are on our best behavior”
This occurs with every relationship we form with people..we get to meet their representative first. Its so rare to meet someone who we can “figure out” right off the bat. I suppose thats what makes life interesting.
I appreciate this male perspective…taking notes
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