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Ma’am I am Threatened By Your Big Booty!

Yes yall, I really did just name this post, “Ma’am I’m threatened by your big booty”, I really did. I did that to prove a point that I am very anxiously excited to get into.

I’m always on the search for new and exciting blogs in the blogosphere and I happen to stumble upon this post titled, “Cock Blocker?” Of course being a fan of interesting phallic-inspired blog titles I had to read it all. Besides the amazing writing skills of this blogger the story left me feeling ambivalent about the writer’s perception of herself. As much as I felt her pain with not being able to get rid of her bootylicious friend, “Rhianna” on her first date with “Shallow Hal”, I was disappointed with the fact that she was unable to assert herself like her friend did, in order to make the best of the night.

She described her friend as being a boisterous and shallow individual who is the type of chick that gets attention from the opposite sex and not necessarily for her GPA.

“No way can I have this chick meet my date when I’m on a Kelly Rowland level in comparison to her.”

“When this chick comes on the scene, she can take away your shine pretty damn fast.  She’s tall, has a Lena Horne complexion, and red hair that she been rocking looooong before Rhianna even made her first record.”

Growing up I was definitely a certified platinum plus member of the late bloomers club, and even to this day my jovial behind gets carded…Why. U. Mad?

I’ve always been compared to or had a shapelier relative or friend who was always more mature than I was and for the longest time and even to this day at times, the comparing on some levels ensues. I can relate to the reader because I would feel threatened when the more full bodied friend or relative would get more attention from the opposite sex until one of them almost burst into tears on the phone one day after having yet another relationship dissolve.

“They only see me as a sex object!”

The pain of the big booty chick and all other body type chicks is REAL. We constantly compare ourselves to unrealistic beauty standards and the only person who loses from that in the end is us. Could it be possible that you are desirable just as you are… booty, no booty, sagging tities, itty bity tities?

The amount of energy that the writer put into worrying about Rihanna was the same energy that caused her to stick around during the date and ultimately land her another—-whoops I almost gave away the story- GO READ IT!

We all have things we wish were different but ladies I promise you someone is in the corner watching your ass who wants not a damn thing on you to change…not even the stretch marks.

My point…when we say the “Ma’am I am threatened by your big booty” it sounds silly yet some of us are threatened by petty ass things like another woman’s booty size..let it go!

Have you ever been compared to a friend or relative?

Is there a type of woman or man you feel threatened by? Do you believe that most men/women go after a certain body type?

Speak on it!

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Telisha Ng is the Creator of Battle of the Sexes Show, and Goddess Intellect. You can always find Telisha offering fun wisdom and sound advice on relationships. It’s her mission to bring men and women together for love, respect and flirtatious freedom to make the world a better place.
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  1. mzsporadic (Reply) on Tuesday 29, 2011

    I have been compared to many women, friends and relatives. I used to have low self esteem because of it, but then I learned to LOVE myself. Nothing else mattered after that. O have stretch marks lol but the men I’ve dated didn’t give a damn then or now. Yes! Men/Women are attracted to certain body types. But there is somebody out there for all us. People just med to realize if YOU don’t love yourself NO ONE else will. Sometimes, I do feel threatened by those big booty little waist bitches lmao

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  2. Nikks (Reply) on Tuesday 29, 2011

    To my knowledge I’ve never been compared to friends or family members. I’ve had family and friends tell me teasingly, but I know there’s truth in it, that with me around it’s hard for guys not to compare. The thing is I don’t think about things like this often, I was raised with enough confidence, but awareness to know looks don’t mean anything when you look back at your life and worth.

    I’ve been nameless before. I’ve been *Tracy’s friend with the Big Booty or Big Batty (Jamaicans). I wasn’t offended, because I see myself as more than assets and parts.

    Some guys definitely have a certain type that they go for, yes. Women are the same way, I have a type and I’m sure I might have walked past a guy who didn’t fit the build and he could have been great for me. It’s just life, not intentionally ignoring skinny men, sometimes we just don’t see what’s right before us.

    Great read G.

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  3. Bee (Reply) on Tuesday 29, 2011

    I can totally relate, and wrote something similar after watching the Victoria’s Secret fashion show last night…and seeing nothing but comments on FB and Twitter about how the models need a cheeseburger or two…as a naturally slim chick, I get the same unsolicited comments all the time, and it’s played out!

    I was definitely the black sheep of my fam in this regard – they embraced the curvy woman, so for me to be the only one who wasn’t that led to constant teasing and comparisons to siblings and other family members…it is what it is though. I’ve reached my point of self-acceptance, so I take it in stride…but I can see where less assured people would still have serious confidence issues…

    Nice post!!

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  4. krystllyght (Reply) on Tuesday 29, 2011

    Honestly, I’m 27 years old and am still working on this. You’re right, we shouldn’t compare ourselves but we do. I know I’m not ugly but I don’t like my body and when I see a chick with a donk and a kind of flat stomach, I just get mad. I think it’s because I compare myself to my sister. She got all the booty in the family. I used to try to gain weight to have a bigger booty but it doesn’t go there, just to my stomach. #sadface. I’m still working on this though because I know that I have something other than my body to offer.

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  5. Ainz Neal (Reply) on Tuesday 29, 2011

    Confidence is important just worry about yourself and not the next person.

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  6. Petersburgh (Reply) on Tuesday 29, 2011

    Goddess I never had that problem because I always believed that I am unique so I don’t feel threatened by other men. However, I am not perfect so sometimes I do wonder how women view the cliched 6 pack etc. I don’t think they are better than me but sometimes I do wonder why some women do. What I can tell this particular lady or any lady for that matter is not to worry. Some men like women who don’t have big butts, tits, long hair, short hair, whatever have you. I always say make sure what comes out of your mouth be more significant than all else. The rest will work out itself.

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