I’m a G when left to come up with post tittles I really am. This one is just a mess! Inspired by an Australian-flavored all male “show” in Vegas, I used to this title to describe the intimate topic I am about to write about today. At some point in a relationship that has crossed the sexual threshold, protection or a lack of is discussed. The answers are usually pretty cut and dry, no glove no love or I want to feel the calamity or just the tip baby- Just. The. Tip.
At that point a couple decides whether to raw dog it or keep it safe. I think at some point some of us have gone aux natural, especially those of us with children. Whether through sober decision making process or a champagne drizzled haze it’s normal to have slipped up on the protection game, its ok I won’t tell.
Going natural is one of the most intimate experiences you can have with someone. You literally leave yourself open to a deeper devotion or chance of infection, the stakes are high and the pleasure is even greater. As my eyes roll to the back of my head I instantly snap back to reality when the topic of my protection comes up.
I’ve been asked on a few occasions by previous and current lovers to go on birth control pills. Every time that conversation comes up I’ve put a big middle finger stop to it. I remember the first time I had a conversation with my mom about birth control. She never said it outright but she knew that my boyfriend at the time and I had ummmm been yknow *nervous laugh* and she made me go get a prescription. She was very nonchalant about it, I remained in a panic. I’m hoping that I turn out to be that cool under parental pressure when I’m a mother, I really do.
I hated taking birth control and I would miss pills here and there. Disclaimer: Don’t do that! DON’T DO THAT!
I think it was at the age of 25 when I realized that a large chunk of women around me had fertility or menstral cycle issues. There was also this HPV bull going around and new shots they practically begged us to get at the gynecologists’ office. I swore off those pills and anything like it and I remain firm in my decision to be birth control pill free to this day.
This is quite a personal topic and once again I just let you inside my bedroom- Like what I did with the walls?
It’s important to talk about this stuff (sexual health) with your partner and please don’t feel pressured to go on birth control just so that you can feel the calamity. Not every sexual partner you have deserves to have that protective layer removed. I didn’t mean for this to necessarily become a post about testing but while I’m on the subject, it doesn’t hurt to schedule an impromptu testing appointment- date night?
What are your thoughts on birth control and having sex aux natural? Is there a certain point in the relationship folks should stop using birth control?