What If?
Due to my laziness I was out late last night walking the dog. I let him loose in the park and noticed a white SUV parked across the street. I’m thinking ok, guess a couple is having sexy time. About five minutes later a white male 5’9, glasses, dressed in baggy construction worker attire hopped out of the car and started walking towards the park. He’s walking slowly. I quickly call my dog to me all the while I’m looking back over my shoulder and he’s walking real slowly. All I could think is, “oh shit he’s scared of dogs”. I now get the dog on the leash and he stops. He stops and stares at me. I walk with the dog past him on the right side, he then says, “sorry I thought you were my girlfriend.” I flash one of those “yea right muthafucka” smiles and quickly walk to the far left side against a fence with my dog so I could watch this muthafucking creep walk right past me. Of course he was walking slowly, so I slowed down until I saw that he made his way back to the car. I was frightened. A million and one thoughts popped into my head: I know the dog would throw down if need be, but he could’ve had a gun…and then what?… What type of man goes driving around in a residential neighborhood looking for his girlfriend late at night? IF HE THOUGHT I WAS HIS GIRLFRIEND WHY DIDN’T HE HOLLA OUT MY NAME? WHY AM I OUT HERE SO LATE? WHAT IF I DIDN’T HAVE THE DOG WITH ME?
And you get the idea, the thoughts just kept getting louder and louder.
I’ll be completely honest with you. I felt very lonely and vulnerable when I got home. If I had not had the dog with me and had maybe run to the store to grab something solo would the same series of events have occurred? Was the man indeed looking for his girlfriend and was my imagination running away with me again? Sometimes this single independent woman thing is not all its cracked up to be. I’m not saying I am going to accelerate my search for Mr.Right, or hire a chiselled bodyguard who I would have no choice but to pay with —–, but I need to be more attentive as all single women should be, of my surroundings and my safety.
As an individual what measures have you taken to ensure your safety? Do you stay strapped? Do you always travel with a companion? Taken martial arts? Never crossed your mind?
Carlton put the gun down,
Goddess Intellect
P.s If you don’t get the Fresh Prince reference above we can not be friends. *big grin*
P.P.s I tried to find a picture of a woman of color being followed……………..NADA……..hmmm?
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“Carlton put the gun down,”
LMAO!!!! Everyone should remember THAT episode.
But yeah, ya boy was shady as hell. Maybe you need to keep a tazer???
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goddessintellect Reply:
December 14th, 2009 at 11:10 am
A tazer? Perhaps…or perhaps I need not be out that late..
Yea its all about Carlton..I had so much more respect for Will Smith as an actor after that episode…but I was snickering at the same time.
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Nik Reply:
December 15th, 2009 at 11:55 am
I laughed my ass off when Carlton knocked the tray over and Will said, “I was gon’ eat that man.” Great episode.
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I am well rested on 10 hours of sleep, so its probably not my eyes. but did I just see you refer to yourself as single (not once, but twice)?
hmm…
interesting story, nonetheless. watch out for the prowlers.
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goddessintellect Reply:
December 15th, 2009 at 7:04 am
Yes, twice Grandweezy!!! lol
To me if you’re not married, you’re single =)
I’ll try my best to stay off the 6 O’Clock news
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I’m glad your okay. I don’t by that story that he thought you was his GF. People are crazy.
I have been stalked and followed home before. It’s very scary and I count my blessing. I like to travel with people but I’m more so alone a lot. I don’t carry anything on me, I just pray to God that I make it to where I’m going.
But then there are the times when I’m mad and I leave wherever I’m at and head home walking. It usually arounf 1 or 2 in the am hours. I have this mean mug and I make it home okay.
I need to be more careful.
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goddessintellect Reply:
December 15th, 2009 at 7:06 am
Damn you’re brave, but sounds like something I’ve done b4. I’m the kind of person who will just take off walking when I’m mad and with the rage I’m feeling I would hope no one would try nothing. I think prowlers are more likely to attack when they smell fear.
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sunnydelyte21 Reply:
December 15th, 2009 at 10:53 am
Me too. But people say I have that “fuck outta here” or “I wish you would” face on all the time…LOL
Plus, I missing a few screws
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goddessintellect Reply:
December 15th, 2009 at 11:09 am
Girl I’m missing lots of screws my damn self…seems like with each passing day they just keep falling out CLINK CLANK all over the floor, but thats what CRAZY glue or excuse me KRAZY glue is for rightttttt????…Its that coffeee againnnnnnn
What in the hell Goddess! What the hell you doing at the park when it’s not daylight?! Don’t make me lecture you. Okay I’m glad you’re okay and that turned out well. Thank God for your dog, your smarts, and quick thinking! Don’t do that ish again!
I think I became most aware during one of my vacations this year. I was spending time with a “friend” when he made a remark and being Nik I had a comeback ready for him. He gave me a five minute head start, he caught me, pinned me on the bed and it clicked in my head…if this wasn’t my boy, I’d be in serious trouble. I couldn’t move. He was strong. Thank God this scenario ended with a kiss and awareness.
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Nightfall Reply:
December 14th, 2009 at 11:37 pm
Nik your a freak. lol
Getting pinned in bed to make a point.lol
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Nik Reply:
December 14th, 2009 at 11:46 pm
Leave me alone Nightfall! Lmao, that’s how it happened aight?! Lol.
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goddessintellect Reply:
December 15th, 2009 at 7:07 am
lol@ kiss & awareness
You were aware alright…this made me giggle!
Girl, that scenario is possible whether you have a Mr. Right or you’re searching for one. Doing simple things like walking the dog and going to the grocery store should ALWAYS be done with some caution….it’s too many loony bins out here not to pay attention.
I do a lot of things by myself but I make sure I leave very little room to be assaulted. I hold my truck key between my index and middle finger until I am inside my truck; if someone runs up on me, their ass is geting stabbed. As for being out alone, while it’s dark, I just make sure I don’t park anywhere I’m not visible to the driving public and even other patrons. So far, so good but anything is possible so I’m always looking around.
As for that guy…he sounds suspect and I’m glad nothing happened to you or your doggy.
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goddessintellect Reply:
December 15th, 2009 at 7:11 am
Your comment def matches your name..girl thats some assertive witty goodness- the key tactic..I was also listening to a show somewhere that said the nerves on the top of the foot are most sensitive so if you jab a mofo right there with your heels you’re good to go!
You’re also absolutely right about this one:
“that scenario is possible whether you have a Mr. Right or you’re searching for one. Doing simple things like walking the dog and going to the grocery store should ALWAYS be done with some caution….it’s too many loony bins out here not to pay attention.”
I mean my initial reaction was…”if a man were with me”
but truth be told a man is not a velcro adhesive attachment, shit could go down at any minute.
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AssertiveWit Reply:
December 15th, 2009 at 11:46 pm
When they start making men with a velcro adhesive attached, please let me know. I could ALWAYS use an extra hand lugging my groceries upstairs when the Sir isn’t around LOL
Thanks for that pointer about jabbing someone in the foot w/my heel; it will be used should someone think it a smart idea to assault me.
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First off let me say I stumbled upon your blog and its awesome, secondly I just purchased a dog for my daughter and I was having the same thoughts one night, but it had never actually been to a point like the one that you had. Usually its just my imagination running wild. My dog is a Schnauzer and as I stated I just got him (about a minth ago) he barks at strangers and I’m unsure if the bite matches lol. I suggest getting some mase, thats what I’m going to do. I’m so trigger happy theres no telling what I’d do with a gun! Thanks for the read!
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goddessintellect Reply:
December 17th, 2009 at 9:31 pm
Keywords: Trigger happy, tits, & of course Mcghee
Welcome and please stop by again..I’ll look into the mase
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